Never Underestimate an Introvert

Introversion vs. Extraversion: one of the biggest personality debates known to mankind. But what exactly does Introversion and Extraversion mean?

Many individuals may think that if you’re an introvert it means you’re quiet and an extrovert means you’re social. This may be partly true, but the true definition of these terms are based on how an individual stimulates their energy. An Introvert receives their energy best through themselves, whereas an Extrovert recieves their energy by being around others. cover There are also people who can be both an introvert and extrovert and that personality classification is known as Ambiverts. An ambivert will enjoy socializing with others in certain situations, but also have their down time as well.

Now, most people have taken the Myers-Briggs personality test, which I have a few times and I have landed in the category of an Introvert. However, there are some instances where I can be an ambivert as well, mostly in social environments like school and work. But, I mostly receive my energy stimulation best by myself and that is completely okay. An introvert’s mind is a lot different from an extrovert. Introverts experience more times of solitude, which means they take a lot of time to ponder. Now obviously, I don’t know what it’s like to be a full on extrovert, so I have no idea how their brain works, but I can imagine extroverts tend to crave more adrenaline than an introvert does and that’s okay.

I think often people have a lot of misconceptions about introverts because we live in an extroverted society.  We all know that most of this world is built for an extrovert personality, but according to author Susan Cain’s book called, “The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, ” she states, “One-third of the people we know are introverts.” So if this world is supposedly built for an extrovert, why are there a lot of introverts in the mix of it?

To answer this question I say that introverts bring a powerful balance to an extroverted world. Many people may think that introverts lack good communication skills, but that’s not true! Introverts can have just as good communication skills an extrovert, why? Because introverts are known to be great listeners and plus introverts will most likely listen to understand than to reply. Introverts also hate small talk communication. Instead, introverts enjoy having more meaningful deep conversations with others. According to an article posted from Today.com called “7 Suprising Reasons Introverts Make Better Partners,” they discuss how introverts are great in times of conflict. Introverts will tend to think twice before they decide to get into a conflict, but they usually try to avoid conflict pretty much altogether.

Typically, extroverts fulfill leadership positions, but introverts can make great leaders too. Why?successful_people_can_be_introverts_too_640_11 Because an introvert leader will listen to all the ideas from different individuals instead of just going off on their own ideas. Introvert leaders may not have a lot of network connections, but when they do their network connects are based on more one on one relationships with others. Also, some of the most greatest leaders in American history have been introverts. Rosa Parks, Albert Einstein, Eleanor Roosevelt and even Abraham Lincoln, fall into the category of introversion.

The point I’m trying to make is that we need to stop underestimating introverts in our society. Introverts have the power to make great communicators and leaders just like an extrovert does. So the next time you think of an introvert, remember the powerful balance they bring to this extroverted world.

— Kim

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Why social media users need to stop the “savage” trend.

In the world of social media websites like Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook and Instagram, it is not uncommon to come across one social trend known as acting “savage.”

For those who don’t know what I’m talking about, the word “Savage,” means fierce and uncontrolled. An example of “savage” is when a media user will create a post with statements that may be unfiltered and may come off as a bit sassy. Usually these posts are sarcastic, but other times they can have the potential to come off as very disrespectful.

Now, I’m a huge social media fan myself and I would be lying if I said I haven’t posted a sassy sarcastic post before, but I have had enough of this whole acting “savage” trend. The reason being that I feel like this trend is causing us to dehumanize each other. I think we sometimes we forget that after all the smiles and giggles by a sassy post; there’s a person behind a screen who has feelings. We tend to forget that not everyone enjoys the same types of posts as we do and what we may think is socially okay to post, may not be to another.

I find it interesting whenever I see twitter users sub-tweeting harsh statements about other people and those tweets get the most likes over the positive uplifting ones. Why is that? Why do we as a society think these posts are okay? I get that these posts can be funny and witty sometimes, but the “savage” trend is going way too far.

A friend once told me they liked the whole “savage” trend because they enjoyed being sassy with people. When I first heard this statement, I really didn’t know how to react. Yes, I do enjoy acting sassy sometimes myself, but honestly I wouldn’t want someone to act like that to me all the time because it can potentially cause a lot of hurt feelings. People may say I’m too sensitive about this issue, but I feel that we are not realizing the effects of this trend.

The problem of the “savage” trend is that it is slowly creeping into our personalities without us even realizing it. We may think that we are just joking around here and there, but if we are acting this way every so often, potentially our mentality is going to change when we fall into this trend.

There are so many posts, particularly among the millennial generation, that give advice about relationships, friendship or about life. Usually these social media posts respond with negative solutions instead of positive ones. For example, a relationships post on social media will usually result in us being mad towards the person we care about because our expectations aren’t being meant. And instead of working to keep the relationship with the person we care about, we end up hurting them because the savage trend tells us to stop caring about those who matter the most to us and worry about ourselves and what we “deserve.” And I don’t know about any of you, but this is a serious problem.

Right now, we live in a time where social media users receive instant gratification. We can post whenever want, we can binge watch YouTube videos whenever we want, we can do anything we want in the time that we want it when it comes to social media. But, we sometimes forget that there is no app for working at relationships, achieving success and etc in real life. Instead of listening to these savage relationship posts on social media that tell us to move on and get rid of the person we care about, we should do the opposite. We should truly care for the people that matter most to us and not give up on them just because we have hard feelings. It’s more cool to actually care for someone than to give up on someone.

With this being said, I hope next time you see a “savage” post or action, that you won’t get caught up in that mindset because the effects of this trend can affect you more than you realize. ALWAYS, remember that it is more important to be kind than to be “savage.” May god bless! 🙂

— Kim

 

 

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